I’ve been lucky enough to have some time off from my main job over the festive season and I’ve spent a bit of this time reflecting on my writing and consumption of social media and other content creators. I spend a lot of time watching videos on YouTube about a whole manner of topics and although I wouldn’t say I spend a lot of time on social media, I spend more than I would like to. I’ve been slowly curating my social feeds and YouTube subscriptions to only include those that bring my value and don’t make me doubt or dislike my own life, I’m moving away from the comparison trap that is so easy to fall into. I noticed something that I hadn’t before when watching some recent creators uploads, a lot of the videos I was watching were along the lines of a ‘How to’ guide. ‘How to get started with minimalism’ or ‘Steps to becoming more sustainable’ and so on. As much as I enjoy these videos and I do find some value in them, I wondered what the impact was on me for being told by others how I should be doing certain things in my life.
I think the reason for this is because it’s easy to be given a formula or framework for something to follow. If someone was to tell me to try someone new, I likely wouldn’t know where to start but if they gave me some steps to follow, I’d feel a lot more confident. However, I have found these videos can be somewhat harmful to me and the way I think. If I do something a certain way and someone publishes a guide on the ‘best ways’ to do that same thing, it brings some doubt into my mind. I know I should have more faith in my own ability but I think we can all be guilty sometimes of doubting ourselves and looking up to someone else. The comparison trap strikes again! Realising this led me to rethink how I create content here on my blog. Was I doing the same as some other creators and potentially making my readers feel doubtful or less of themselves? We live in an age where anyone can call themselves a coach or an influencer and as much as it’s nice to share knowledge and wisdom, where is the line between helpful and harmful.
So I’ve decided to change how I write posts on my blog. I’ll no longer be doing ‘how to’ posts or anything that could be taken as advice. I’ll mostly talk about my thoughts on different topics (still keeping in theme with what I’ve written in the past) and what works for me but please know, what works for one person doesn’t always work for everyone. I don’t want to make anyone else feel how I’ve felt in the past from content I’ve consumed because it’s not fun and it causes a lot of doubt and stress and sometimes money if you decide to make changes to your house or style or so on.
I really hope that you enjoy that my way of posting and please let me know your thoughts in the comments section below!